Services: Tantrums


Ways to Eliminate Tantrum


1. Discipline


When your child does something unacceptable:

·        Go down to their level

·        Make eye contact

·        Tell them they did something unacceptable

·        Warn them that if they do that again they will go to the Naughty Chair

·        If the bad behavior is repeated, take the child and sit him in the Naughty Chair

·        Explain why they are sitting there and to stay there until you come and get him

·        The length of the time-out is determined by their age: 1 minute X their age. A timer would be useful here and a visual indication for the child to watch the time go by.

·        At the end of the time-out, the child must apologize.

·        For an older child, they can go to a “Naughty Room” that is not their bedroom and does not have a TV or other activities; it has to be a boring place.

·        For a younger child, the time-out should take place in a “Naughty Chair” that is placed close-by the main play area, but again not in a bedroom or eating place. The first step of the stairs, if you have stairs, is a good place for a toddler.

·        Either way, you cannot associate a time-out with a place where they sleep or eat or play, or else they will refuse to sleep, eat, or play there.

2. Meal time

·        If a child is still sitting in a high chair away from the table, he should be moved to the main table so he can feel he is a part of the family, he can be seen easily by all – instead of mom having to turn to see the child. This will minimize the bad-behavior at the table. A booster seat placed on a chair is good. Or just push the highchair up to the table, removing the tray, and then the child can use the table to eat off of like the rest.

3. Nap time

·        Nap time should be scheduled at a certain time each day and must end by 3pm so that the child will be able to sleep at     bedtime.

·        Kids resist nap time because they want to keep playing. A nap time routine will help transition the child from play time to nap time.

4. Clingy/Whiny Child

            The clingy or whiny child uses clinginess, whining, and other bad behaviors to get attention and get what they want. To break this cycle, you have to teach them that these things will not get them what they want.

·        Go down to their level

·        Make eye contact

·        Keep a small distance

·        Explain to them that you will listen to them when they stop clinging/whining/crying/screaming

·        When they calm down, give them a hug and then ask them what they want and do it for them. If it’s something you don’t approve of, distract them with something else.

·        Remove them from the situation and use distraction

5. Bed time

·        Make a set time for bed time

·        Develop a bedtime routine: bath, brush teeth, read a book.

·        Place in their bed, kiss goodnight

·        Phase I:

o       Sit on the floor next to their bed.

o       If they get out of bed, place them back in bed

o       Do not talk at any time, keep silent at all times

o       No eye contact at any time

·        Phase II:

o       Sit in a nearby room

  • If they get out of bed, place them back in bed and go back out without talking or looking at him

** You must be consistent in this administration and conduct these techniques every time the behavior occurs in order for them to produce effective changes 

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Dr. Edward Giaquinto, Ph.D. - A licensed, clinical psychologist who has been assisting people in improving their life by increasing their emotional and mental health.